I recently made a big change. I thought about it and almost did it many times over the last few years. But I just couldn’t get myself all the way there, until recently. What was holding me back?
What is it that ever holds us back? Sometimes I just felt “stuck” in limbo: Not really being connected to what I was doing, yet not capable of moving forward into what I really wanted to be doing.
I finally made that change and have realized that it was much easier than I ever thought imaginable. Duh. Isn’t that almost always the case?
The answer is not all that simple, nor is it the same answer for everyone. For some, it’s a lack of confidence or just fear that things won’t work out. For others it’s more pragmatic: perhaps not being able to organize oneself.
Here are a few tips you might find helpful if you’re trying to get unstuck:
Be clear about what you really want: It’s hard to really make a change if you’re not sure exactly how you want things to turn out. It’s always a good thing to write down the details of what you want your end result to look and feel like. Don’t hold back. Dream big! Just make the outcome something plausible. You can make it even more clear by finding some pictures to go with your written words. Perhaps print and post your description somewhere you’ll see it daily, right alongside the pictures. The more you see it and ground yourself in this new reality, the more “real” it will seem to you and the more you’ll naturally be drawn into it.
Take one step at a time: What are some easy steps you can take to get the ball rolling? Perhaps you can’t make the change overnight, but what is something you can you do today to move forward with your plan?
Build in some support: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Are there people who might be supportive? Why not surround yourself with people who can be helpful and supportive of your process?
Be gentle with yourself: Life’s all about the journey, not the destination! Enjoy the process and be kind to yourself as you move forward. Build in little “rewards” for yourself as you meet certain steps along the way. Have fun with it!
Some people find it useful to have a little help along the way. If you are interested in finding out what coaching can do for you, please contact me today. I’d be happy to give you a free session and to talk about how I might be able to support you in your journey!