Getting Unstuck

unstuckJust Do It!” is such great advice. Thank you, Nike. But why isn’t it easy to “just do it?”

I recently made a big change. I thought about it and almost did it many times over the last few years. But I just couldn’t get myself all  the way there, until recently. What was hold­ing me back?

What is it that ever holds us back? Some­times I just felt “stuck” in limbo: Not really being con­nected to what I was doing, yet not capa­ble of mov­ing for­ward into what I really wanted to be doing.

I finally made that change and have real­ized that it was much eas­ier than I ever thought imag­in­able. Duh. Isn’t that almost always the case?

The answer is not all that sim­ple, nor is it the same answer for every­one. For some, it’s a lack of con­fi­dence or just fear that things won’t work out. For oth­ers it’s more prag­matic: per­haps not being able to orga­nize oneself.

Here are a few tips you might find help­ful if you’re try­ing to get unstuck:

  1. Be clear about what you really want: It’s hard to really make a change if you’re not sure exactly how you want things to turn out. It’s always a good thing to write down the details of what you want your end result to look and feel like. Don’t hold back. Dream big! Just make the out­come some­thing plau­si­ble. You can make it even more clear by find­ing some pic­tures to go with your writ­ten words. Per­haps print and post your descrip­tion some­where you’ll see it daily, right along­side the pic­tures. The more you see it and ground your­self in this new real­ity, the more “real” it will seem to you and the more you’ll nat­u­rally be drawn into it.

  2. Take one step at a time: What are some easy steps you can take to get the ball rolling? Per­haps you can’t make the change overnight, but what is some­thing you can you do today to move for­ward with your plan?

  3. Build in some sup­port: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Are there peo­ple who might be sup­port­ive? Why not sur­round your­self with peo­ple who can be help­ful and sup­port­ive of your process?

  4. Be gen­tle with your­self: Life’s all about the jour­ney, not the des­ti­na­tion! Enjoy the process and be kind to your­self as you move for­ward. Build in lit­tle “rewards” for your­self as you meet cer­tain steps along the way. Have fun with it!

Some peo­ple find it use­ful to have a lit­tle help along the way. If you are inter­ested in find­ing out what coach­ing can do for you, please con­tact me today. I’d be happy to give you a free ses­sion and to talk about how I might be able to sup­port you in your journey!

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