Crossroad — AGAIN!?

groundhogAll of us go through major tran­si­tions at least a few times in our lives. We find our­selves at a cross­road, hav­ing to make life-altering deci­sions. These kinds of deci­sions are pretty tough. There can be a lot of pres­sure try­ing to make the “right” deci­sion, along with fear about what could hap­pen if the “wrong” deci­sion is made.

I’ve found myself at this <bleep­ing> cross­road so many times over the last few years that I’m begin­ning to feel my life is like the ‘93 movie Ground­hog Day with Bill Mur­ray. When I was recently laid off from my last job, I thought, “Holy crap. Not again!” My ini­tial reac­tion brought to sur­face all kinds of yucky emo­tions and neg­a­tive self-talk, such as “You’re such a loser! How old are you — and you still can’t fig­ure things out for yourself?”

The extra pres­sure I’m putting on myself doesn’t help. You see, I was using my job to fund my “real” work, help­ing miss­ing, home­less & exploited chil­dren on the streets of Costa Rica with the Casa Mila­gro Foun­da­tion. It’s an over­whelm­ing expe­ri­ence, and has taken years of work for us to get where we are. My biggest fear, there­fore, has been that things would crum­ble and chil­dren would suf­fer — all because of me. (Note the mar­tyr attitude!)

Of course that’s not the truth. Noth­ing is “my fault.” We all do the best we can, and things are just the way they are. No amount of self-loathing will help any­one. And life goes on.

Instead, I’m look­ing at this sit­u­a­tion as an oppor­tu­nity. That’s why I’m shar­ing it with you. In case you, too, find your­self at a cross­road, per­haps we can look at things from a dif­fer­ent perspective:

Take time to get back on track. After time, in our busy lives, we get “off track” with so much. Have you been exer­cis­ing, eat­ing well and tak­ing good care of your­self? What is out of bal­ance in your life at this moment? Per­haps this is a good time to make course corrections.

Con­grat­u­late your­self for your suc­cesses! Instead of feel­ing sorry for your­self, take time to reflect on all your suc­cesses and wins from the past. How have you grown? What skills have you devel­oped? And what did you learn about your­self that you can apply toward mak­ing the best next move forward?

Think BIG! Could a dras­tic change be pos­si­ble and pos­i­tive in your life right now? Depend­ing on your per­sonal and fam­ily sit­u­a­tion, that may not be appro­pri­ate. But if it’s within the realm of possibility…why not allow your­self to dream and come up with mind-blowing and excit­ing options? What would get you really excited about life and help you spread your wings?

Remem­ber you are not alone. We often for­get that help is at our fin­ger­tips. If you can’t afford, or don’t want to con­sider a life coach (such as myself!), then there are groups of peo­ple around the world who are will­ing to lend a hand. Con­sider the inno­v­a­tive com­mu­nity group, Live Your Leg­end. Who knows? Maybe in addi­tion to meet­ing some new friends, and get­ting some great (free) sup­port and advice, you might make a great busi­ness connection!

Point being — change can be good. And it all depends on your atti­tude and the way you treat your­self (and oth­ers) while you move through these changes. Best of luck and many wishes for a bril­liant 2017!

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