All of us go through major transitions at least a few times in our lives. We find ourselves at a crossroad, having to make life-altering decisions. These kinds of decisions are pretty tough. There can be a lot of pressure trying to make the “right” decision, along with fear about what could happen if the “wrong” decision is made.
I’ve found myself at this <bleeping> crossroad so many times over the last few years that I’m beginning to feel my life is like the ‘93 movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. When I was recently laid off from my last job, I thought, “Holy crap. Not again!” My initial reaction brought to surface all kinds of yucky emotions and negative self-talk, such as “You’re such a loser! How old are you — and you still can’t figure things out for yourself?”
The extra pressure I’m putting on myself doesn’t help. You see, I was using my job to fund my “real” work, helping missing, homeless & exploited children on the streets of Costa Rica with the Casa Milagro Foundation. It’s an overwhelming experience, and has taken years of work for us to get where we are. My biggest fear, therefore, has been that things would crumble and children would suffer — all because of me. (Note the martyr attitude!)
Of course that’s not the truth. Nothing is “my fault.” We all do the best we can, and things are just the way they are. No amount of self-loathing will help anyone. And life goes on.
Instead, I’m looking at this situation as an opportunity. That’s why I’m sharing it with you. In case you, too, find yourself at a crossroad, perhaps we can look at things from a different perspective:
Take time to get back on track. After time, in our busy lives, we get “off track” with so much. Have you been exercising, eating well and taking good care of yourself? What is out of balance in your life at this moment? Perhaps this is a good time to make course corrections.
Congratulate yourself for your successes! Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, take time to reflect on all your successes and wins from the past. How have you grown? What skills have you developed? And what did you learn about yourself that you can apply toward making the best next move forward?
Think BIG! Could a drastic change be possible and positive in your life right now? Depending on your personal and family situation, that may not be appropriate. But if it’s within the realm of possibility…why not allow yourself to dream and come up with mind-blowing and exciting options? What would get you really excited about life and help you spread your wings?
Remember you are not alone. We often forget that help is at our fingertips. If you can’t afford, or don’t want to consider a life coach (such as myself!), then there are groups of people around the world who are willing to lend a hand. Consider the innovative community group, Live Your Legend. Who knows? Maybe in addition to meeting some new friends, and getting some great (free) support and advice, you might make a great business connection!
Point being — change can be good. And it all depends on your attitude and the way you treat yourself (and others) while you move through these changes. Best of luck and many wishes for a brilliant 2017!