Success Redefined

As the year quickly draws to an end, it’s only nat­ural to look back and reflect on what went right, what went wrong, and what would we like to see come out of the new year.

As I was reflect­ing on these top­ics over my cup-o-joe this morn­ing, I thought back to a con­ver­sa­tion I had with a psy­chic friend of mine about 12 years ago. He told me that my life would be a series of ups and downs, but by the time I reached 43 years old that I would finally have set­tled into what it was I was meant to do with my life, that I’d be extremely suc­cess­ful and happy.

Those words helped carry me through some pretty dark times over the last 12 years. I would think to myself, “though I may be suf­fer­ing now, there are much bet­ter times to come.”

As these last three years have been pass­ing, I’ve watched my life pass, detached as though watch­ing myself from out­side my own body. Each year worse and worse. Each time think­ing, “Damn, things can’t get any worse than they already are,” only to find that things kept get­ting worse.

Three years ago I was in a lov­ing, long-term rela­tion­ship and doing pretty darn well in all aspects of my life; own­ing a cou­ple of nice cars, a farm with 2 houses and run­ning four busi­nesses in Costa Rica to liv­ing alone and in severe poverty. By severe poverty I mean not hav­ing any money to buy food, pay rent or util­ity bills, etc.

The obvi­ous ques­tions I’ve been con­stantly ask­ing myself are, “Why did this hap­pen to me?” and “Is there a way out of this mess?” While study­ing for my mas­ters degree in Spir­i­tual Psy­chol­ogy I learned that the “why” doesn’t mat­ter. It’s all about how we treat our­selves and oth­ers as we’re going through painful and tough times. But let me tell ya, it ain’t easy!

So this morn­ing I found myself get­ting a lit­tle angry at my friend who told me that by now I would be on the right path, suc­cess­ful and happy. But as I reflected deeper on the sub­ject I had an “Ah ha!” moment. What is the def­i­n­i­tion of happy and successful?

I real­ized that instead of hav­ing tons of employ­ees and headaches and stress and a work­load with no end, that I am liv­ing a stress-free life now. I’m con­nect­ing with the peo­ple around me on a much deeper level. I’m expe­ri­enc­ing the gen­eros­ity of oth­ers instead of feel­ing I need to be the one “tak­ing care” of other people.

Instead of run­ning around stressed out all the time I’m actu­ally enjoy­ing being “in the moment.” I laugh a lot. And when I cry, it’s not because of what I don’t have or what I lost. When I cry it’s because I’m over­whelmed with the beauty of the peo­ple and the world around me.

So per­haps I don’t need to feel dis­ap­pointed because the des­tiny I was wait­ing for didn’t come to fruition. Instead I’m going to embrace the gifts that life has brought me and do my best to be kind to myself and others.

True Budget Travel

I can’t tell you how often I hear from friends and acquain­tances, “You are so lucky. I wish I could travel as much as you do. If only I had the money!”

Trav­el­ing does not have to be expen­sive. How­ever I think most peo­ple are unaware of how many less-expensive options there are avail­able to us these days.

Per­son­ally, I’m not “cheap.” I have expen­sive tastes. My grand­mother used to say to me that I have cham­pagne tastes on a beer bud­get. When I can take advan­tage of the fancy stuff, I do. But that’s not real­ity. Real­ity is that I’m on a tight bud­get like most people.

How does one travel and yet not spend a lot of money? It can take a bit of time, research and energy, but fol­low­ing these tips can sure help you spread your money out — and enjoy more time on your trip, as well as sav­ing you enough to take trips more often!

I’m actu­ally in Colom­bia right now for 10 days. I got my ticket (busi­ness class) using miles from my credit card. I ended up spend­ing less than $100 for the few miles I was short, as well as the taxes. When­ever pos­si­ble, use a credit card that allows you to earn miles for each pur­chase. Then under­stand your ben­e­fits — and take advan­tage of them. You’re already spend­ing the money. Why not earn miles for free travel at the same time — with no extra cost? You can com­pare air­line fre­quent flier pro­grams using a very use­ful USA Today com­par­i­son tool.

The apart­ment I’m rent­ing I was able to find using airbnb. It’s a web­site where aver­age every­day peo­ple any­where around the world can list a room in their house, their apart­ment, or their whole house for rent. I was able to find a great, new apart­ment in Cali in a good neigh­bor­hood with an out­door patio, 24-hour secu­rity guard and a rooftop deck for only $25 per night.

Also becom­ing more pop­u­lar is Couch­Surf­ing. Despite its funny name, it’s an absolutely amaz­ing con­cept. Basi­cally, when you join Couch­Surf­ing, you’re join­ing a com­mu­nity and a cul­ture. You are able to tap into a great group of peo­ple instan­ta­neously any­where in the world.

Couch­Surfers” cre­ate pro­files and either offer to host guests in their home for free, or they offer to “hang out with” or give advice to trav­el­ers who will be in their area. Con­versely, one can search for a free place to stay using this web­site. Because there are groups and sub-groups, one can eas­ily find oth­ers who share sim­i­lar inter­ests or lifestyles. I have both Couch­Surfed — and hosted Couch­Surfers and have enjoyed both immensely.

I’m not sure how to explain this, but I find that all the peo­ple I’ve encoun­tered are very sim­i­lar in that they are respect­ful, kind, gen­er­ous and happy to spend time get­ting to know new peo­ple and places. For those who do not feel com­fort­able with the idea, I still strongly sug­gest get­ting to know peo­ple online before trav­el­ing to an area. Tips from locals are invaluable.

Depend­ing on your line of work and your inter­ests, you might also find there are grants avail­able to you, which would pay for all your travel expenses. I’m the Exec­u­tive Direc­tor of a non­profit orga­ni­za­tion in Costa Rica, Trop­i­cal Adven­tures Foun­da­tion. We run vol­un­teer pro­grams through­out the coun­try. I’ve seen a vari­ety of peo­ple, such as teach­ers, get their entire trip paid for through grants. It may be wise to spend some time research­ing this as well.

Shop­ping for spe­cials can be time-consuming online. There are so many web­sites out there. How­ever there are some web­sites that are worth mentioning:

  • Smarter­Travel has great Deal Alerts, as well as Trip Ideas and price com­par­i­son tools.
  • Air­fare­watch­dog is an indis­pens­able tool when search­ing for air­fare. You can cre­ate Fare Alerts which will let you know auto­mat­i­cally when there are spe­cials to a cer­tain city, from a cer­tain city, between spe­cific cities — and more. Why spend time search­ing for hours when you can auto­mate the task?

The bot­tom line is that trav­el­ing on a bud­get is sort of like cut­ting coupons for gro­ceries. One has to be con­scious of what they want, and spend some time search­ing for how to get what they want for less. I’ve always believed that where there’s a will, there’s a way! Happy Trav­els!

One-on-One Sessions


While com­plet­ing my grad­u­ate work in spir­i­tual psy­chol­ogy, I came to believe that all humans are Divine Beings here in this dimen­sion hav­ing a human expe­ri­ence. We are all unique and valu­able indi­vid­u­als who are fully capa­ble of heal­ing our­selves from what­ever we per­ceive is dis­turb­ing us by using the resources we all have within our­selves. We are a pure expres­sion of Love.

In my prac­tice I tend to focus on a small num­ber of issues:

  • Life Pur­pose
  • Death & Dying
  • Rela­tion­ships
  • Tran­si­tions (big life changes)

Whether I work with you in per­son — or via Skype — my task is to help you take full con­trol of your own life  and to help you learn how to main­tain happiness. 

Life is like a big school. We are here to learn. Every expe­ri­ence speaks to us on some level.

We are influ­enced  by many peo­ple and every expe­ri­ence we have in our lives. Sub­con­sciously we allow our­selves to become pro­grammed by these influ­ences, cre­at­ing our per­cep­tions of every­thing in our lives. If we take a step back and eval­u­ate our inter­pre­ta­tions, the fact is  that many of them are MIS­in­ter­pre­ta­tions. They are not real.

One exam­ple of a mis­in­ter­pre­ta­tion of real­ity is, “My life is not com­plete unless I am mar­ried and have chil­dren.” Another would be, “I have to have a col­lege degree in order to be suc­cess­ful.” The num­ber of mis­in­ter­pre­ta­tions we all have is shocking. 

All humans – includ­ing you – are Divine Beings here in this dimen­sion hav­ing a human expe­ri­ence. These peo­ple are unique and valu­able indi­vid­u­als who are fully capa­ble of heal­ing them­selves from what­ever they per­ceive is dis­turb­ing them by using the resources they have within them­selves and with the help of Spirit – a pure expres­sion of Love.

The guide or coach is an instru­ment and helper only – not some­one who is here to “fix” people’s prob­lems for them or to make deci­sions for them. The guide is a per­son who is able to reflect back the love and the beauty of the client and to assist them by teach­ing them valu­able tools to help themselves.

What­ever you are expe­ri­enc­ing in your life exter­nally is a direct reflec­tion of what is going on in your inner world. If there is dis­cord and dishar­mony all around, that means there is dis­cord and dishar­mony inside. There is no excep­tion to this rule.

We all must be will­ing to take 100% respon­si­bil­ity for our own hap­pi­ness at all times. No one else is to blame – ever. It is pos­si­ble to get to a point where we can never have to say, “I am not happy because.….” or “I am not at peace because…”

If you are ready to embrace hap­pi­ness and to make some pos­i­tive changes, please email me at scott@pralinsky.com or call me today at +1 218–506-8426. Or merely just click here to sched­ule a ses­sion with Scott online!